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Three reasons why you need to GUARD your heart...

Your heart is the most important leadership tool you have. It is not your experience, knowledge, or skills. It is your heart that matters most of all.

This is why as leaders we must be diligent to guard our hearts. King Solomon said it best: “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life” (Proverbs 4:23).


This is necessary for at least three reasons:

1. Because our hearts are extremely valuable. We don’t guard worthless things. I take my garbage to the street every Wednesday night. It is picked up on Thursday morning. It sits on the sidewalk all night, completely unguarded. Why? Because it is worthless.

Not so with your heart. It is the essence of who you are. It is your authentic self—the core of your being. It is where all your dreams, your desires, and your passions live. It is that part of you that connects with God and other people.

Just like your physical body, if your heart—your spiritual heart—dies, your leadership dies. This is why Solomon says, “Above all else.” He doesn’t say, “If you get around to it” or “It would be nice if.” No, he says, make it your top priority.

2. Because your heart is the source of everything you do. King Solomon says it is the “wellspring of life.” In other words, it is the source of everything else in your life. Your heart overflows into thoughts, words, and actions.

In Tennessee, where I live, we have thousands and thousands of natural springs, where water flows to the surface of the earth from deep under the ground. It then accumulates in pools or runs off into creeks and streams.

If you plug up the spring, you stop the flow of water. If you poison the water, the flow becomes toxic. In either situation, you threaten life downstream. Everything depends on the condition of the spring.

Likewise, if your heart is unhealthy, it has an impact on everything else. It threatens your family, your friends, your ministry, your career, and, indeed, your legacy. It is, therefore, imperative that you guard it.

3. Because your heart is under constant attack. When Solomon says to guard your heart, he implies that you are living in a combat zone—one in which there are casualties.

Many of us are oblivious to the reality of this war. We have an enemy who is bent on our destruction. He not only opposes God, but he opposes everything that is aligned with Him—including us.

I think that pastors are particularly vulnerable. An August 1, 2010 article in the New York Times reports that,

Members of the clergy now suffer from obesity, hypertension, and depression at rates higher than most Americans. In the last decade, their use of antidepressants has risen, while their life expectancy has fallen. Many would change jobs if they could.”

Satan uses all kinds of weapons to attack our heart. For me, these attacks often come in the form of some circumstance that leads to disappointment, discouragement, or even disillusionment. In these situations, I am tempted to quit—to walk off the field and surrender.

This is why if you and I are going to succeed as leaders—and survive as individuals—we must guard our hearts. They are more important than we can possibly imagine. If we lose heart, we have lost everything.

What was the last time your heart was attacked? How did you respond?
 
from Michael Hyatt - Intentional Leadership

Praying for ... me.

I thought you’d be interested in reading several prayers Nancy Leigh DeMoss has prayed for herself over and over again through the years. Then, I’d love to hear what prayer(s) you regularly pray for yourself.

Nancy’s Personal Petitions:
 Guard my heart. Make and keep it pure. Protect me from the schemes and attacks of the Evil One.


Fill me with Your love. Help me to love You with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength. Make me compassionate and sensitive to the needs of others around me.


Fill me with Your Spirit. May I be emptied of myself and filled with Jesus. Anoint my life and ministry with supernatural power.


Clothe me in humility. May I be poor in spirit. May I esteem all others as better than myself. May I not seek to impress others, but only to please You.


Make me a servant. Help me to serve You with gladness; to render each act of service as unto Christ; to joyously accept even “menial” or “unfulfilling” responsibilities.


Guard my tongue. May I speak only words that are true, words that help and heal, words that are wise and kind.


Give me wisdom and discernment. Help me to see all of life from Your point of view. May my life be ruled by the wisdom of Your Word.


Give me a grateful spirit. Help me to give thanks in everything. Help me to acknowledge and express the benefits and blessings that I have received from You and others. Protect me from a discontented heart and a murmuring tongue.


Help me to walk by faith and not by sight. May my life show the world how great You are. May I be willing to step out in faith when I cannot see the outcome, and may my life not be explainable in human terms.


Teach me the fear of the Lord. Help me to practice the conscious, constant awareness of Your presence. Help me to live my life in light of the final judgment and as one who will give account to You.
"When God wants to do an impossible task, he takes an impossible person and crushes him.  And it is in the crushing that character emerges to be used for His greater glory."  

-Chuck Swindoll




Dietrich Bonhoeffer on 'cheap grace'

Cheap grace is the grace we bestow on ourselves . . . the preaching of forgiveness without requiring repentance, baptism without church discipline, communion without confession. 
Cheap grace is grace without discipleship.”

Listening to Dallas Willard

Food for thought...



"In teaching and/or modeling the gospel, am I producing legalists or disciples?'


"Do not pray for easy lives.
Pray to be stronger men.

Do not pray for tasks equal to your powers.
Pray for powers equal to your tasks.

Then the doing of your work shall be no miracle,
but you shall be the miracle.”


— Phillips Brooks
U.S. Episcopal bishop (1835–1893)
As a leader of women, perhaps my hearts greatest desire is to listen attentively to the voice of God speaking through scripture, daily events, and the kind of reflection that leads me to consider

 "… for you have died and your life is hidden with Christ in God."

I must refuse any narcissistic image to idolize what I do or who I claim to be as a leader. I struggle to let go of old ways of seeing and must refocus my vision so that I recognize Christ in all persons.

I need to take off my shoes and enter the holy space, where I am welcomed by God to surrender all to him. (Jan Johnson)


"The word is very near to you; it is in your mouth and in your heart for you to observe."


--Deuteronomy 30:14

The Real Purpose of Leadership

Why do leaders exist?

This is perhaps one of the most simple yet profound questions we can ask about leadership. Oddly, I am not sure I have ever heard anyone address it.

But until we answer this foundational question, leadership tips and techniques won’t make much sense.

My answer to the question is this: Leaders exist to create a shift in reality.  Without leaders, things drift along. They go where they want to go, following the path of least resistance. However, when this is not desirable—or acceptable—you hire, elect, or appoint a leader.

The leader’s job is to overcome resistance and make things flow in a different direction. His or her job is to create a different reality.

So how do you create a shift in the status quo?


1. Identify what needs to change. This is commonly called the situation analysis. What is unacceptable about your current environment? What frustrates you? What disappoints you? What needs to change?


2. Determine the outcome you are after. This is what is commonly called vision. Getting clear on the what is more important than understanding how you are going to get there. What do you want to create in the place of the status quo?


3. Decide how you will achieve your outcome. This is what is commonly called strategy. There are numerous ways to get to the same destination. Good leaders pick the one that will produce the results they are after in the most economical way.


4. Create an action plan. It is not enough to determine your vision and decide on a strategy, you must carefully craft an action plan with specific milestones and due dates. You have to be able to chart your progress.


As you go through this process, you must enroll your team. This is the mark of great leaders. If you don’t do this, you can expect resistance. And, it’s not because your people are rebellious, lazy, or stupid. It’s because you didn’t do your job as a leader.


With a clear plan, and an aligned team, you can move mountains.


Leadership challenge:

Your Responsibility = Their Opportunity

"I think one role of leadership is creating opportunities for others. If you do everything yourself, your potential is limited to your abilities. I know that sounds obvious, but the obvious eludes us! If you're doing things that others can do 80% as well as you can, then you are not just wasting your time. You are wasting other's gifts! Think of it this way: your responsibility = someone else's opportunity!


If you learn to unleash others and create opportunities for them to step into their gifts, then your potential for impact multiplies exponentially..."

-Mark Batterson, National Community Church, Evotional


Do you lead by enabling others to use their spiritual gift?
Tim Keller, pastor of Redeemer Presbyterian Church in New York City, preaches his sermon at Hunter College on Manhattan's Upper East Side. Keller leads services in multiple rented locations every Sunday, moving from one place of worship to the next throughout the day.
USA TODAY Reporting Kathy Lynn Grossman

NEW YORK~
Susan Hong stops Pastor Tim Keller as he dashes up the steps of a Baptist church on a hectic corner of Broadway and West 79th Street.
She heard him preach at 10:30 a.m. on the
Upper East Side. Now she has brought friends to hear him at the West Side 5 p.m. service. He briefly greets her, then slips into the service just before his sermon.
In 45 minutes, before the final hymn, Keller's gone... continue the story

Starting a Bible Study...


In January we are going to be studying a book of the Bible verse~by~verse.

Studying this way is not going to be an easy 'fill in the blank' study that can be completed in fifteen minutes. It's challenging...but by far the most rewarding way, I THINK, to study the Bible.


I would like to say to my ladies,

"Come to the Bible with a sense of expectation and openness that here...you might find something vastly more wise and more penetrating and more world-shaping than any of the contemporary ideas you are presently dealing with."

There is nothing God expects of us that He does not provide in His Word. He helps us understand what to do and gives us the motivation to do it. (Piper)
...to be continued...

Starting a Bible Study...

from Bible Cafe for Women....


How do women pursue a goal of knowing God when they are burdened with busy lives?

Somewhere between work, relationships, children, friends, chores, shopping, paying bills and cooking dinner, a woman desires for alone time with God. Is intimacy possible with so many demands on her precious time?

Often a woman’s strongest desire-to have an intimate relationship with God-is her lowest priority in her time management. She missed devotional time because she battled her son over unfinished homework. Her boss called for overtime work and she missed the weekly Bible study at church. She waited in line to buy a fast food meal, and neglected to pray while eating from the front seat of her car. Finally home, a pile of unsorted laundry rests on her unmade bed- and she’s so tired from her day, she just falls down into an exhausted sleep.

Unable to pursue her goal for more time with God, she begins her new day with disappointment and anger. Chaos ensues in her constant struggle for what she calls “balance.”

Yet we know from experience that many women are finding time and intimacy with God. They’ve adjusted their priorities and placed God first in their day. These women are making minor adjustments to their lives, such as:

Adjusting time spent with friends
Letting go of some television shows
Waking up an hour earlier
Cutting down on volunteer hours
Shortening social media interactions

While friends are important, watching the news is important, sleep is important, volunteering is important and social media is important-
if you thought you had five minutes more to live, would you do these things?
Do you need a life threatening event in order for you to realize that you need intimacy with God?

Starting a Bible Study...


Our first meeting at Starbucks was great!



First we were able to secure the most perfect table for a small group meeting. Add to that something hot, sweet and carmelish to drink, throw in a little nervousness of sharing about ourselves and meeting new people, mix in a little laughter and lots of smiles, and I left counting the night a complete success!

By our next meeting, we should be able to confirm our meeting times, dates, and location. I haven't decided yet about the book of the Bible we are going to zero in on, but I think I have narrowed it down to the New Testament.

During our next meeting, I want to discuss the format we'll use for our weekly discussions. I still need to put several finishing touches on those and I'll be able to post them soon.

So for now, I'm praying daily for my ladies. It is a huge priviledge of leading women in studying the Bible and I don't take it lightly.


I am honored that He has given me another quiver of willing, teachable, and FUN women!

Thank you Lord for...

THE SMALL CHURCH THAT MEETS IN MY HOME!

Starting a Bible Study...






I have been 'back' in Louisville now for almost a year. It has been a time of settling my family into a familiar routine, getting our girls acclimated into new schools, and taking a long deep breath of appreciation for the blessing of returning to the city I love.

As in years past, I knew it wouldn't be long before the Lord would fill my thoughts of 'who' to circle around my dining room table for Bible study. Even though it has taken me almost a year, I feel the Lord has led me to just the right women. When it's confirmed in my heart of the 'who' I am to invite, then I begin formulating in my mind the how, when, and where it will begin. I think I have that too!

So, here's my plan:


* Sometime in November... Meet together for an initial gathering at
a Starbucks, someplace where we can meet each other and chat over coffee/tea.

* Sometime in December...Congregate again maybe to eat, fellowship
together, and enjoy the holiday season.

* Then in January 2010, begin meeting weekly for Bible study
together.

I have considered carefully that this time of year is one of the busiest for US! So, I thought if we instead could begin the 'getting to know you' process, while taking a 'coffee' break for a minute or two, we could begin in January as friends and not complete strangers.

In January, we will meet three weeks a month on Monday evenings from 7:00-9:00pm. Our two hours together each week will be filled w/ great conversation and thought provoking discussions. Over the course of the year (January -May), we will read and carefully study selected books of the Bible. My hope is that the time of Bible study and prayer will help us grow in our understanding of God and in friendship with one another.

....to be continued....

What to Expect





THE 46th Year:

Someone has a lot going on these days!

As a 46 year old, she is always on the go, exploring her world and all the changes that seem to greet her each morning. She is trying to stay up-do-date with words like ergonomic, Twitter, and spa day. She juggles work with all the responsibilites that call her to task: carpooler, teacher, homework inspector, cook, and too many more to mention.

What Your 46-Year-Old May Be Doing
...this year she should be able to:

*Color-coordinate her own clothing (w/ nightly rechecks from her teenage daughter).

*Plan a weekend getaway (w/ help from other carpooling moms & dads).

*Create a grocery list in under two minutes (though she's still apt to forget it at home).

...will probably be able to:

*Host a last minute dinner party.

*Operate a food processor.

*Start insightful discussions on BOTH Japanese fashion and federal spending.

...may even be able to:

*Write a best-selling novel, work full-time, and run a charity organization!

Spreadsheets -vs- Mystery




Is spiritual leadership different from other forms of leadership? Skills ought to be transferable, but where are the differences? What are the differences?

Spreadsheets are important. Some of you nod your heads enthusiastically. Mystery, faith & faithful risk are also important, vital even if there is to be spiritual growth.

How do we practice spiritual leadership within organizations which have responsibility for numerous people, mortgages and master calendars?

Can we only exercise faith, take risks and involve mystery within the realm of our own personal spirituality?

Is this some of the conversation being held by emergents, new monastics and alternatives?

Here's what Henri had to say in the 70's.
"The first and most basic ask required of the minister of tomorrow therefore is to clarify the immense confusion which can arise when people enter this new internal world. It is a painful fact indeed to realize how poorly prepared most Christian leaders prove to be when they are invited to be spiritual leaders in the true sense. Most of them are used to thinking in terms of large-scale organizations, getting people together in churches, schools and hospitals, and running the show as a circus director. They have become unfamiliar with, and even somewhat afraid of, the deep and significant movements of the Spirit. I am afraid that in a few decades the Church will be accused of having failed in its most basic task: to offer men and women creative ways to communicate with the source of human life."
Henri Nouwen, 1970's

Would love to sit round with steaming hot mugs of tea or coffee and delve further. But alas, there's very possibly an ocean between us, literally.